Lilian Clesham

Couples Counselling

Why do I need it?
Is your relationship in a rut?
Do you feel that you have chosen the wrong partner?
Is there recurring conflict in your relationship?
Do you want to enrich your relationship?

How does it work?
My approach is to Couples Counselling is based on Imago Relationship therapy developed by Harville Hendrix in his publication "Getting The Love You Want".

This is a safe approach to helping both of you understand the other better and evolve into wholeness together. It will help you to:

Create a satisfying and fulfilling relationship

Learn to communicate effectively with each other.

Break destructive patterns

Heal old hurts and frustrations


We will work for sessions of approx two hours with structured exercises designed to understand the cause of your pain in your relationship. I will teach you exercises equipping you with your own tools to continue your work building an intimate safe space for you both to explore your hurts.


What is the theory it is based on?
Dr Hendrix , author of "Getting The Love you Want", asserts that the origin of our frustrations as adults lies in our unfulfilled needs or hurts in childhood and we choose our partner out of our unconscious desire to heal or repair out wounds. Our wounds as children happen in relationship to our carers so they must be healed in relationship too.

Within all of us we carry an image that is a combination of the positive and negative qualities of our parents or carers. This is called an "Imago" and this is why we have our chosen our partner because they are person with the negative qualities will trigger the old hurt and with thier positive qualities can help us heal it.

Imago Relationship Counselling offers powerful tools to enable couples in conflict to heal and reconcile remember the original attraction and making a deeper intimate connection.




Counselling for Conflict Resolution
This Counselling model works with any kind of conflict helping each side to see and understand the other's point of view. Real understanding engenders compassion and enables change.